Social media has become a quick and easy way to keep tabs on people’s lives. With just a tap, we can scroll through updates, watch stories, and leave a comment or emoji. But here’s the thing—these interactions have slowly replaced real, meaningful connections. Somehow, a “like” or sending heart-eye emojis has become a way of “checking in.” Instead of asking, “How are you, really?” we rely on digital updates and convince ourselves it’s enough.
Are We Too Busy or Just Distracted?
Let’s be honest—how many of us wake up and immediately check social media instead of replying to texts from our real-life friends? We say we’re “too overwhelmed” to respond to loved ones or make plans, but not too overwhelmed to post a story or scroll through updates from people we don’t even talk to in real life. Social media has shifted our priorities. It’s easier to engage with surface-level interactions than to nurture the meaningful relationships that require effort and care.
Not Everyone Watching Cares
Another uncomfortable truth: not everyone who watches your stories or follows your content has good intentions. Some are just nosey and have zero intention in being supportive. It’s important to be mindful of who we allow into our digital space. Just because someone views everything you post doesn’t mean they’re cheering for you. The beauty of social media? You get to decide who stays in your space.
If someone watches every one of my stories but never engages with me in any meaningful way, they’re getting removed. My energy is sacred, and I want it spent on people who actually care—people who don’t just watch from the sidelines but are active participants in my life. Social media is about connection, not consumption, and I get to control how much access people have to me.
Real Connection Happens Offline
Likes, shares, and DMs don’t replace the feeling of a real conversation. While social media is a tool, it shouldn’t be our primary way of connecting. Picking up the phone, meeting up in person, or even sending a thoughtful text goes a long way in maintaining meaningful relationships. These are the moments that matter, not how many views your story gets.
Set Boundaries and Prioritize What Matters
It’s okay to set boundaries with your digital space. You don’t owe anyone access to your life, especially if they aren’t showing up for you in real ways. It’s not selfish to prioritize your energy—it’s necessary. Just like we protect our peace in real life, we need to protect it online too.
So the next time you catch yourself scrolling instead of replying to a friend’s text, pause. Make a choice. Ask yourself: Am I nurturing real connections or just staying entertained? And if the people on your social feed aren’t adding value to your life, don’t hesitate to let them go.
At the end of the day, social media doesn’t define connection—real life does. Make room for the people who matter and the moments that make life meaningful.
If this resonates with you, take it as a sign: Text that friend you’ve been meaning to catch up with. Make plans. Connect.
And if you’re feeling overwhelmed by social media, you’re not alone. Taking a social media break entirely could be something you need in order to nurture yourself and your real life relationships. Let’s make space for real connection—on and off the screen.
Love,
FIRST, ME.